Comments on: Perfection

By: KT

KT — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:57:15 +0000

I know that I am a little late in posting my reply….

In my original post, I said that my first friend’s marriage was “the gold standard”– I definitely did not say that it was perfect. I know of some of the issues in their relationship, but thought highly of their relationship mainly because they have been married longer than any of my friends from college. That being said, I don’t get to see my friend very often so I know that the information I get from the once a year visits/ emails is not the whole picture. It is never the whole picture- even if you talk to the friend daily.

I agree that a blog should be a place where you don’t out all of the problems/ issues/ fights/ etc. with your significant other. There are some things within a relationship that should be kept private.

As far as my second friend? Although it is not something that I would chose for myself, I would never say to her that she shouldn’t be in the marriage. If she is happy, then that is all that matters.

By: Katie

Katie — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 06:33:37 +0000

This is great on many levels – my personal favorite is a lesson that I learned a little later in my blogging career – there are some things that are too much to share. Though I’m one who is used to being a fairly open book when it comes to my life, I’ve learned to withhold some things. One of those things is an anticipatory relationship someday. I shared a little bit TOO MUCH of a previous relationship even after the significant other voiced their disapproval.

I’ve learned that not only is a blog about my thoughts. Just as I wouldn’t want another blogger sharing anything secret that I might tell them, I also shouldn’t share others’ thoughts and actions and mistakes without their consent, even if their identity is somewhat hidden.

Great lesson learned by me, and glad you practice that too.

By: Kyla Roma

Kyla Roma — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:21:08 +0000

This is such a wonderful post- I totally agree, and I think it’s really important to flag us all to the reality that no matter what we put on our blogs, we’re all just human. We make mistakes & the figure things out the best we can.

I love your insight, it’s beautiful.

By: Nora

Nora — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 02:17:34 +0000

So you know I’ve been in a lot of weddings and attended many more and this post sums up a lot of what I see in my times at weddings and post weddings. I can’t always tell what makes a couple tick but as my dad has always said, “you don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.” And he’s right.

This is a great post because we can’t, nor should we, know everything that goes on in someone’s relationship. We have to trust that they will come to us if they need too. And when they do, we should be here for them, no matter what they have to tell us. (I’ve learned to hide my shock over the years as best I can.)

By: Walter

Walter — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 01:03:46 +0000

Relationship like marriage are complex, each people involved needs to go beyond his/her character to see the bigger picture.

Incorporating perfection in marriage is not possible because it is rooted on the imperfections of humans. Engaging our self to lasting marriage means continuous growth and understanding.

Many people waste their time judging other people. Would it be for our benefit if we work on developing ourselves instead. :-)