Murder
You know what’s been killing me lately? I haven’t done a Replay post since prior to our vacation. You’ve noticed, right? Just say it. Spit it out. And it kills me. I mean, I get that you are probably way more forgiving of me than I am of myself. But, I read all your blogs. And there are always a handful of posts each week that really stand out. And I even say to myself, That would be great for my Replay post. And yet, have you seen one yet? No, of course you haven’t.
You see, for an already busy girl, August has been an exceptionally busy month. Like, verging on the ridiculous. For instance, this week? I had plans or classes or appointments every day after work. Every stinking day. And this weekend? I was telling a friend yesterday what I have planned and it made my own head spin. Dinner with a girlfriend followed by picking up my brother from the airport on Friday. Two picnics followed by meeting up with another girlfriend on Saturday. Brunch with my aunt, brother and hopefully the baby and her mamas, followed by another trip to Buy Buy Baby followed by an other-side-of-the-family gathering on Sunday. And here I am supposed to be relaxing and resting and doing right by my body. Sigh.
But, the thing is, I wouldn’t change any of it. Every night, I tell Sweets of one more set of plans I’ve made. He just laughs, rolls his eyes and shakes his head. And part of me thinks I’m absolutely crazy, too. But, part of me? Doesn’t want to miss out. On that aqua fitness class every Monday. On our childbirth classes on Wednesday. On seeing that one friend from Kansas and that other friend from North Carolina (booked back-to-back next Thursday). On getting together with a dear friend from California and some of our local friends next Friday. On taking an overnight trip to Indianapolis to see friends we met in Costa Rica that Saturday and Sunday. On going to Door County to go camping the following weekend. On juggling a visit from friends with a visit from my dad in October. On taking a baby moon with Sweets later in October. I just don’t want to ignore any of these opportunities.
Because a part of me knows, the rules will change when Grasshopper arrives. And while I like to say that Sweets and I will remain balanced and won’t become all-consumed by child all the time, the reality is, I can’t predict that. And in all likelihood, we will be consumed by Grasshopper for the first few months until we get our footing. And I don’t want to look back on this time as a wasted opportunity to really live it up when we still had freedom. And so? I find myself living it up (as much as a pregnant lady who can’t drink can live it up). And making ridiculous amounts of plans. And cherishing all these experiences we’ve been afforded. And, and, and … taking a small hiatus from Replay. It will return, I’m just not sure when.
Thanks for your understanding and I’ll see y’all on the flip side.
August 20th, 2010 at 7:57 am
This sounds like absolutely the best thing for you guys, go out and live live live! I can’t even fathom how much Grasshopper will change things, and this seems like a sweet time where you can still take afternoon naps or go to a matinee.
Also, a baby moon? Ah! Where are you going?? :)
August 20th, 2010 at 8:09 am
It all changes and in such a magnificent way. You can still do most of what you want to do just with lots more planning :) Enjoy your busy, yet fun, fall!
August 20th, 2010 at 9:15 am
No judgment here; you were a planner & awesome friend before the pregnancy so why should that change? You’re just being true to you and I say that’s awesome =) Plus it makes for fun stories & blog reading next week, too ;-)
Have a great weekend!
August 20th, 2010 at 10:24 am
Yep, definitely no judgment here! You are a busy girl with a very full life right now. I think it’s great to take advantage of this time when you really do ‘own’ your schedule. It seems it’s hard to accept plans when you have a baby so you might as well take advantage of this time now!
Enjoy your fun/full weekend!!
August 20th, 2010 at 10:26 am
I wouldn’t want to miss any of that stuff either. We do have a BBQ with friends scheduled for tomorrow, but other than that my big plan for the weekend is to force Torsten to make a list of baby names. That will probably require most of the weekend, seriously.
August 20th, 2010 at 10:41 am
Is it bad to say I hadn’t noticed? That’s how busy I am! And you can do whatever you want with this blog, don’t worry about us. :-) I get wanting to pack a lot in pre-baby. At least it is all fun stuff! Grab a nap if you can.
August 20th, 2010 at 11:25 am
your blog = your rules! take as much time as you need :) I really enjoy your replay posts but I also enjoy reading all the other stuff too.
August 20th, 2010 at 11:27 am
MY head was spinning just reading the third paragraph. Girl, you are busy!!
I see your logic though and I totally get it. You’re smart, I’m sure you’d know to stop going-going-going if you were REALLY rundown right? Right! ;)
August 20th, 2010 at 12:02 pm
Where are you guys going to go on your babymoon?
August 20th, 2010 at 1:28 pm
i always tell my friends who are having a baby for the first time to enjoy their alone time and travel and stay busy because after the baby comes that all changes. sure, we still go on trips and have date nights BUT the frequency is obviously less. i ALSo say though, and i don’t worry about this at all with you, to not lose yourself just because you have a baby. you’re still allowed to do things for yourself and take time for just you.
with that said i can’t wait for the baby to get here!
August 20th, 2010 at 1:54 pm
Girl, LIVE IT UP! As someone who completely overbooked her August I can relate to not having time to get to all the things I usually do. Over induldge, have too much fun, make another appointment. You’re absolutely right that priorities will change once grasshopper gets here. Enjoy the time you and Sweets have now with each other, with friends, and with family. (You’ll let us know when your new neice arrives right?)
August 20th, 2010 at 1:56 pm
Wow, you are one busy lady! I wonder when/if we’ll get a chance to get together and finally meet in person? I hope so! :)
August 20th, 2010 at 4:09 pm
You absolutely should enjoy your pre-baby days as much as possible (and also your pre-late 3rd trimester days, cuz boy that can be a S-L-O-W time if only because waddling everywhere & having to pee every 20 minutes makes everything take longer!). You’re right that it will change when Grasshopper gets here--not in a bad way, but it will be different. So live it up, and tell us about when/if you get the time!
August 20th, 2010 at 5:01 pm
Do what you want. When you want. However you want.
It does change! And while it’s TOTALLY worth it, enjoy this time while you can!!
August 20th, 2010 at 5:38 pm
Nilsa, you don’t need to apologize to us! Even though I enjoyed your Replay posts, it’s definitely not an obligation that you can’t drop for more important things.
And obviously, you have many more important things to do right now… and you’re totally doing the right thing by living it up as long as you can before Grashopper arrives.
Just make some time to share those good times with us :)
August 21st, 2010 at 3:15 pm
You are absolutely doing the right thing. Get it all in while you can!!
August 24th, 2010 at 12:03 pm
I had to go take a nap after I read this post. ;)